Inside My Journal





From Angry and Triggered to Calm and Centered

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I used to have anger management issues.

I would get triggered and completely flip my lid.

I felt powerless to these reactions like I became possessed and out of control.

When I had my children, I realized I needed to get a grip on my reactivity.

Over time, I learned how to work WITH my triggers. To USE them for my healing rather than continue to be abused by them (and then abuse others with them).

I’m telling you the honest-to-God truth (ask my husband and kids) that I am hardly e…

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How to Stop "Shoulding" On Yourself

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Do you tell yourself you "should" be doing one thing when you're doing another?

Or that you should or shouldn't FEEL a certain way or BE a certain way?

"I should be less lazy"

"I should be further along in my personal growth journey"

"I should have gotten more done"

"I should be working more"

"I should be spending more time with the kids"

"I should be more productive"

"I shouldn't rock the boat"

"I should be patient"

"I should be skinny"

"I shouldn't be sad"

"I should eat better"

"I…

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The Emergence of the Woman Who Wants More

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About 12 years ago, I started to want more.

I didn't even know what that really meant.

I was restless and felt disconnected from myself. I wasn't satisfied - like a deep internal dissatisfaction. There was some longing from within, but I couldn't put words to it.

I had achieved a lot of success by doing all the “right” things. It felt easy to do what was expected of me. To check the boxes of society's rules for success. I experienced a lot of validation and I was rewarded for my commitment an…

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Stop Doing These 4 Things if You Want To Be Happier

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“I have no right to be unhappy, I really have such a great life—so many people in the world are suffering and have much bigger problems than me.”

I used to find myself saying that … and my clients often say it. I learned to start sessions by telling my clients that I know that there are people who have a rougher life than you and that you shouldn’t complain, but this is a space where all of your pain, suffering, and sadness matter.

It’s hard for us to let go of the story we carry that because …

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Balancing Feminine and Masculine Energy into Wholeness

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“The masculine is sovereignty, the crown upon your soul. Femininity is humility and unconditional love, the heart within the breast of your soul and together they make the whole soul essence.” St. Germain, Twin Souls & Soulmates

In 2013, I decided to consciously set my intention to deepen my connection to the people in my life. I wanted to more deeply connect with my family and friends, but also I wanted to more easily connect with people who enter my life for even just a moment. I'd spent …

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Happiness Recipe: Less Positivity and More Shadow Integration

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We've all heard that we can choose happiness, be positive, and recite positive affirmations and that will make us happier. 

My experience says that this isn't enough. 

I’m not actually down on positivity. I grew up with a super positive mom and in so many ways it served me well. I like that for the most part I find it easy to be positive, happy, smiley, and optimistic (even when I am not feeling it inside).

I thank my mom for that ability. 

When we focus only on our positive traits and have an…

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Happy Women's Day: Let's Connect on a Deeper Level

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I have the absolute pleasure and honor to have built a business that has me walking beside so many amazing women, guiding them on their journey home to themselves, The Whole Soul Way™. They never cease to amaze me with their vulnerability, authenticity, self-awareness and courage.

I was bullied as a teenager and had some emotionally devastating losses in the female friendship department over the first 2 decades of my life. The list is long of ways that I internalized a message that wo…

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Why You Need to Stop Trying to Get Rid of the Ego

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I see many spiritual and personal growth teachers and coaches positioning the ego as the enemy. Something to "get rid of". 

This teaching completely misses the mark in my experience and opinion.

Our ego is our protector.

Believe it or not, she's got your back in a big way. 

When your ego seems to mean to you, she really believes that being mean to you will protect you by "hurting you before others can hurt you." It may sound crazy, but she believes this is helpful.

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Is Being Busy a Way To Avoid Living Intentionally?

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It seems like there's a lot more to do these days – more email to check, more Jones' to keep up with, more events to attend, more activities to schedule.

Doesn’t it? 

But also, like being busy is something to be proud of. 

And if you're not busy, people think there must be something wrong with you.

And yet, I think there's something more to this.

Have we decided that we're only valuable if we're busy and productive?

Maybe it doesn’t even matter WHAT we're doing, as long as we're always doin…

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Have We Abandoned the Feminine?

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When you feel you are being moved by the creative spirit, you are in fact being moved by the divine feminine.” ~ Teri Delger

What's happened to the value that historically (many many lifetimes ago) was placed on being a sensual, intuitive, feminine woman? There were times when humans worshipped Mother Earth, the Goddess. Women were revered and honored for their femininity.

Within each human being there are masculine and feminine energies. When we balance the two, we can feel both that we a…

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