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Happiness Recipe: Less Positivity and More Shadow Integration
We've all heard that we can choose happiness, be positive, and recite positive affirmations and that will make us happier.
My experience says that this isn't enough.
I’m not actually down on positivity. I grew up with a super positive mom and in so many ways it served me well. I like that for the most part I find it easy to be positive, happy, smiley, and optimistic (even when I am not feeling it inside).
I thank my mom for that ability.
When we focus only on our positive traits and have an…
5 Pillars of Gentle Shadow Integration
As we do shadow integration work, it's so easy to get stuck when we come upon aspects of self and humanity that can be tough to accept. Sometimes shadow integration can be pretty hardcore, but I invite people to take a more gentle approach to the integration of our shadow, one based in self-love and compassion.
Here are the 5 Pillars of Gentle Shadow Integration:
Pillar 1: Self-Compassion
I like to think of it like this - how can I blame myself for what my ego did to protect me? How can I bl…
Shadow Integration 101: Projections
DO YOU KNOW WHAT "PROJECTION" IS?
It's when people place their own negative traits, emotions, flaws or impulses onto another in order to not have to face it in themselves.
This can actually happen with positive attributes too
Basic gist - "you spot it, you've got it" or when you point one finger at another, three fingers point back at you ;)
This is why, when we judge another, it says more about us than it does about the other person.
And this is always an exiled, orphaned or disowned p…
Love Ourselves: Let's Replace Love with Include
It's so hard to "love" parts of ourselves that we've spent our lives trying to "not be".
But what if it was less personal and more, neutral.
Like a thing we have to do in order to get to the fulfillment, inner peace and connection that we all want? Maybe the word "love" trips us up and the better word is "include."
Can you INCLUDE all aspects of yourself? Even those parts of you that you try hard not to be?
This is the journey of being inclusive - to integrate all parts of ourselves into w…
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