Mission: Be More You

I push women up against their edges so that they can find, accept and love more of themselves. So they don't live their entire lives pretending to be someone they aren't because that wins them love and approval. Rather, they become who they're here to be, tapped into their own love and approval. And they feel so much inner safety, security and strength that they're free to be vulnerable and fully authentic in their lives and relationships.

It needs to be said––you're awesome.

We don't talk enough about it, but every woman––even the ones who appear so strong––struggles with worth issues, feels the weight of the world on her shoulders, feels burdened by cultural conditioning, suffers from self-doubt, has a bit of a broken spirit, feels a little alone and empty inside, and wants to be "good girl" but also feels an inner longing to live true to herself.

This is the plight of a woman who's awakening and seeing that she is so much more than the small box she's been put into (or that she has put herself into).

And this journey we're on to break free from all of that? Well that's just SANITY in my opinion.

So let's agree that going on an inner journey to reclaim ourselves is one of the most important things we can be doing.

Dang, girl, you've spent so long trying to play it safe, to do all the right things and make sure you didn't upset anyone. You've been the responsible, capable, mature one. You never complained, but along the way, you've been dying inside.

Deep down, all you've ever wanted was to be truly met and seen.

I see you.

You've worried that you're "too much" and people can't handle you.

I felt that too. Here, I crave for you to be your biggest, most fully expressed Self.

On the one hand, you feel a sense of purpose by being so useful, helpful...needed. To be the one people count on. On the other hand, you're suffocating from the pressure and self-abandonment.

It's painful to carry the weight of everyone's expectations while feeling lonely and empty inside. What if you could be generous with others AND yourself?

You are so ready. You've already taken many steps along your personal healing journey, but now you're ready to go all in. You're ready to unleash yourself and all of those pent up possibilities. You're ready to be your true self in the world.

It's time. And we are all waiting for you.

We're ready for you to step into the truest, biggest you. To claim your place here in the world.

We've missed you and I'm here to walk you back home to yourself.

You've been put here for a reason. And in order for you to step fully into your purpose you need to be braver and more bold than you've ever been.

Let me show you exactly how to work through your "stuff" to liberate and empower you, so they FEEL brave and bold and show up more fully in the world as the real you.

You're In The Right Place, If You...

realize that you've spent a lot of time trying to self-improve and fix yourself, but that what you really need is self-love and radical self-acceptance (but you have no role model for how to do it)
see that you have to spend the rest of your life with YOU, so you want to make sure you have a rich and healthy relationship with yourself, but again - how?
know that you're supposed to accept the "as is" and heal your inner child and reparent yourself but, quite frankly, you need more guidance on how to do all of that
are so over the “positivity” message of the new age communities and ready for something that's grounded in the reality of the human experience
have done a lot of reading, learning and meditating but what you're learning isn't translating into the changes you want to see in your life
acknowledge that vulnerability is something that you're not so great at. Empathy, yes. Vulnerability, not so much.
get that, even though you wish others would change and do better, your happiness is an inside job
want to learn to trust yourself to tell you what's ready to be healed within you rather than chasing the latest "advice" on Instagram
want to be supported by other like-minded women (even if it also feels a little scary)
are ready for a visceral and sustainable experience of freedom, inner peace and fulfillment

And you're ready to stop...

sacrificing yourself in a bid to make others' lives better (self-abandonment)
morphing into the person you think will keep another person from feeling discomfort or getting upset (people-pleasing)
walling off your heart to protect it from getting hurt (guarding)
living your life being controlled by your past and the conditioning that's been imposed upon you (autopilot)
letting your reptilian fear brain and ego defense mechanisms be in charge anymore (ego-consciousness)
allowing your life to be run by your unconscious mind when it's completely in your power to bring the unconscious into your conscious awareness (victim-consciousness)

A man likes to believe that he is the master of his soul. But as long as he is unable to control his moods and emotions, or to be conscious of the myriad secret ways in which unconscious factors insinuate themselves into his arrangements and decisions, he is certainly not his own master.

~ Carl Jung

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Are you with me on this?

I do this work partially because I don't like to suffer, want closer relationships and want to enjoy life more. However, I'm highly motivated by wanting to be a good mom for my kids, not passing on trauma, being a better person toward my husband, expanding consciousness overall, not projecting my shit onto others, being a genuinely good person, fulfilling my soul's purpose in this lifetime, making a difference in the world, making the world a better place than when I got here and all of those "future of humanity" reasons. I need to be the True and best ME in order to do all of that.

I know you - you're a capable and motivated woman. You've been out there trying to figure out HOW to truly spiritually awaken. How to heal and move beyond your past. You're usually really good at fixing problems in your life and you usually know exactly what to do.

Am I right?

Which is why it's frustrating to not know exactly how to do this inner work thing.

The Whole Soul Way™ is the only online group program that shows self-reliant women a clear path to finally feel more seen, loved and supported in their lives, without having to change their current relationships or situation.

The Birth of The Whole Soul Way

There are so many people that act as a catalyst to wake us up to see that something else is available. That there is another way to "do life." Think Eckart Tolle, Oprah, Dr. Shefali, Wayne Dyer, etc. Thank you to all of them!

But so few people are explicitly teaching us that we have a built-in guidance system (our own Soul Way GPS™) that guides us on a unique and personalized path––with breadcrumbs and trailheads––to get us back home to ourselves.

Over the past decade, doing my own inner work and while working with clients, it got so clear to me that we're so cleverly built––first, we protect ourselves when we're small and powerless. And then, when we're ready, we're guided to dig out of all of that and liberate ourselves from those constraints so we find our true Selves and love and live freely.

It's so cool––I was in awe that we're always being guided to what we most need to know. And I wondered, why isn't anyone teaching us exactly how to use this built-in system?

So, I decided to use my super cool brain that sees things in ways that others don't always see and relentlessly seeks to fill in what's missing to break down how our Soul Way GPS™ actually works.

In 2021, I pulled it all together into a group coaching program and course called The Whole Soul Way™.

It's one thing to want to awaken and live consciously, it's a whole different story to know HOW to get from here to there. The Whole Soul Way™ answers the HOW and empowers you to take the lead.

Join me!

Also, I don't think we should be going through this alone. So, let's not.

Let's make sure you have everything you need on your inner journey and as you create the life of your choosing.

That you experience it with more joy and less fear. More connection and less isolation. And feeling more "in the know" and less "in the dark."

You want that too?

Then join us in our Facebook Community with other women who are on their path just like you.

Together, we'll take the lead on our life and our inner journey.

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Hi! I'm Deb, Founder of The Whole Soul Way

Like you, I've been on my own inner journey.

For me, it began in 2010 when I got tapped on the shoulder by my Soul. All the ways that I had managed and controlled my life were no longer working.

I had always been happy (literally always smiling) and my life was going well. I had the "husband and two kids," a nice home, good friends and so much more. I was the strong and reliable one. The one who didn't seem to need much. The one who could totally become whoever I needed to be to avoid upsetting someone or causing discomfort.

I felt disconnected from my life and myself. I felt restless––something was missing (turns out it was me, missing from my own life). For too many years, I blamed my husband (he always seems to be my scapegoat). Fortunately, we got miserable enough that we ended up in couples counseling. Our counselor was A-MAZING––a transpersonal therapist with countless years of experience. She saved our marriage and walked ME back home to myself.

Now I do this for others. I've been coaching women 1:1 and in groups for the past decade. Finally, in 2021, I pulled my life's work into a group coaching program and course called The Whole Soul Way™.

Here are some things I've learned over my lifetime:

Put relationships first. Learning to open my heart and trust has not been easy. But removing the barriers to loving fully is a big reason why I do my inner work. At the end of my life, how much I loved will matter more to me than what I actually did.
In our house, weird is the highest compliment and tells me that you're bravely being YOU!
You can live a mainstream life and also live consciously. However, it can be a lonely and confusing path at times which is why I've had to find my tribe.
Sacrificing myself in a bid to make other people's lives better was a bandaid on my wound of unworthiness. I've come to realize that, in my important relationships, I'm loved for who I am, not what I do.
All the ways I abandoned myself to gain the love and approval of others caused me so much pain and suffering. Our inner relationship is the foundation for all other relationships.
I had amazing coping strategies that kept me safe, but coping is too low of a bar and now I choose liberation.
I have a true appreciation and respect for triggers, judgments, and projections because they show me exactly what parts of me are ready to be seen and healed.
Everything that happens in my life provides an opportunity for me to grow and show up more fully. Life happens FOR me.

Fun Facts About Deb

I have always prided myself on being an omnivore - I love sugar and meat, pizza and peanut butter, junk food and healthy food. But...over the past year, I lost 25 lbs and decided to move toward a whole food plant-based diet (WFPB) and I'm about 85% there. Sugar is still a challenge for me.
I live in Northern California and spend a lot of time out on the trails with my sons, husband and friends - hiking and exploring nature.
I believe in taking radical responsibility for our own happiness, because only then can we become truly selfless. AND I also still struggle with this ;)
I love lifting weights and hate cardio / aerobic workouts.
I dream of a future where we can teach our children to love every part of themselves, so we can ease their paths, and so they can take charge of their own healing — and by doing so, heal the world.