I remember sitting in the therapy office with my husband. Over and over I would share a judgment I had about my husband. Over and over, I thought it was him that was the problem.

After a few months, I caught on to what she was doing. She was always guiding me back to see where I did the same thing that I judged in him, just in different ways, in the past, less obviously, etc. She pushed me to question if was even true about my husband.