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Stop Being So Hard On Yourself
We have connected relationships, thriving families and awesome lives because we love and accept ourselves, not the other way around.
But, when I get started with my clients and they come around to believing that to get what they want, they need to love and accept themselves, they ask me…”okay….so….how do I do that?”
To be completely honest, it's not a "three steps" or "21 day challenge" kind of a thing. It's more like a journey.
So, let's set our GPS to the intersection of self-acceptance ave…
Self-Love is a Way of Being, Not Another Thing To Do
It's so easy to neglect self-care because we have too much to do. We KNOW that if we were to take care of ourselves, everything else would be easier and better, but we just can't do it (for a myriad of reasons hidden behind "I don't have the time"). Nevertheless, I recommend we look at it differently.
What if Self-Love is more of how we "be" in the world and the tiny little choices we make all day, rather than "another thing to do on your list?"
What if it's the way we act all day long - can …
Afraid of Being Seen as Lazy?
I know (many) moms who secretly wish they would get sick or end up in the hospital just so they could feel justified in resting, sleeping and doing nothing!
When you think about slowing down or resting do you immediately think "lazy?"
Do you relax and then feel guilty for doing nothing? Does your tough inner critic tell you to stop being lazy? Or question whether you deserve to rest when there are so many things that need to be done?
Here's the thing - this guilt and self-talk puts more pres…
How I Moved Beyond My Fear of Criticism
How do you feel about criticism? Do you do everything you can do avoid it? Does your fear of criticism hold you back from being your true self?
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” ~Dr. Seuss
For as long as I can remember, I lived in my own make-believe world where I believed that if I was “perfect” in my actions, no one would criticize me. I was convinced that I was doing everything “right” therefore I was protected. …
Self-Care Is NOT Enough
Most moms have been told “take care of yourself”. Self-care has become pretty mainstream.
But I see a lot of moms stuck at self-care when their soul is asking for self-love.
Seriously, I highly recommend self-care. I recommend that we all get 7–8 hours of sleep at night, and if we have new babies, that we sleep during the day when they sleep. We need to move our bodies, eat reasonably healthfully, and take time to do nurturing things that refresh and rejuvenate us. You may choose to meditate, …
Self-Love Includes Loving the Parts You Fear are Unlovable
Maybe you've heard people talking about self-love as if it’s just “this thing” you should just do or have.
But I want to be completely honest with you
Self-love is not an easy journey and can feel uncomfortable
Tremendous rewards, but hard work nonetheless.
We don’t get taught how to love ourselves. In fact, most of us get taught how to reject and criticize ourselves, to beat ourselves up, through subtle and not-so-subtle cues throughout childhood and beyond.
Self-love is not just “girl, yo…
Red Pen the Shoulds
What is Self-Abandonment?
Realizing That You've Always Been Lovable
You are enough just as you are.
But you probably don’t think so. Or perhaps you think you are too much. But in some way, you probably are hiding some parts of yourself – the parts you fear are not lovable.
Over the years, you've been subjected to conditioning and comparisons. And you learned at a very young age to do whatever it takes to be loved and accepted…even if it meant being someone other than your true self. You may have learned that it was best to hide what you think and feel and who you …
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